Use your words
Posted by wendy on 2012/01/12
I wrote a pretty harsh Facebook status yesterday:
That cut and paste status that likes to insinuate that I don’t CARE ENOUGH about cancer to copy and paste someone’s lame attempt at being profound on MY status needs to DIE. Seriously.
I’ve touched on this subject before–as you know, I am no fan of cut and paste–but, I thought I’d elaborate on this a bit, and doing it here seems a better spot than writing another short status update. My updates are for flippy remarks and what kind of sammich I had for dinner. Long explanations and heartfelt thoughts go here. (Well, for the most part–I do admit to being flippy over here, too. I can’t help myself, y’all. I’m flippy. It’s my nature.)
This is one of the many viral updates that get under my skin and make me cringe:
All of us have thousand wishes. To be thinner, to be bigger, have more money, have a cool car, a day off, a new phone, to date the person of your dreams. A cancer patient only has one wish, to kick cancer’s ass. I know that 97% of you won’t post this as your status, but my friends will be the 3% that do. In honor of someone who died, or is fighting cancer, or even had cancer, post this for at least one hour.
First and foremost….if 97% of the people who see your Facebook status are not your friends, then may it’s time to delete Farmville and step away from your computer. Go make some friends and stop being all passive aggressive with the ones you DO have. It will do you some good. ooo…I’m snarky.
I’m going to share and it’s kind of important.
You are not a parrot. You are not a myna bird. You’re not a toddler mimicking his parents until he learns how to speak correctly. You can speak for yourself. I realize that this takes more time than a right click. I know you’re busy. I am, too. We’re all busy with our lives and our virtual farms and getting that high score on Farkle. Okay, maybe that’s just me with the Farkle. But, I digress.
As a cancer survivor, and as someone who has lost people that I love dearly to cancer, as someone who has friends who fought and survived, who are fighting as I type this, I want to make something very clear: You are not honoring anyone with a thoughtless right click and a paste. If you want to honor someone, then use your words. If you’re thinking about someone who’s fighting cancer, then tell them. Sending them an email or send them a card through the mail. Give them a call. Tell them you’re thinking about them and send them your best. As someone who has been there, I can tell you that words mean more when they come directly from you. Truly sharing how you feel about someone takes time and thought. If you want to honor someone who lost their battle and wish to share, then…SHARE. Talk about that person, tell us if they made you laugh, what they smelled like, how they made you feel. Tell us you miss them.
Use your words.
It really does not take much longer to write “I am thinking about you.” than it does to copy and paste someone else’s status. I realize that people love to use Facebook as a soapbox and the internet dearly loves a good bandwagon, but I like to dream of a world in which the passive aggressive “shame on you” bandwagon is the empty one.
Use your words. It won’t matter how bad your grammar is or how awkward your words sound–if they come from your heart, they will be appreciated.
Use your words. Because, when we are sick, when we are suffering, it is YOU we want to hear from the most.
Use your words.
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